Why love languages aren’t so simple after all
Love languages entered the cultural conversation decades ago and never really left. The idea that people give and receive love through five distinct channels, words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch, resonated so broadly that it became one of the most widely used frameworks for understanding romantic relationships in […]
Best ways to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship according to relationship scientists
The spark that defines early romantic connection is one of the most universally desired and most commonly mourned features of long-term relationships. Its fading is so widely expected that most people treat it as inevitable, a natural consequence of time and familiarity rather than a response to specific and addressable dynamics. The research on sustained […]
Top 5 surprising things that kill desire in long-term relationships and how to fix them
Desire does not disappear from long-term relationships because love fades or because the relationship has run its course. Research on desire in committed partnerships consistently finds that the forces most responsible for its decline are specific, identifiable, and in most cases addressable. The problem is that most couples never learn to identify them, attributing the […]
Oxytocin has 4 findings that explain why some couples stay deeply connected while others slowly drift
Oxytocin is the hormone that most people have heard described as the love hormone or the bonding hormone, usually in a context that makes it sound like a warm and fuzzy chemical footnote to the more dramatic neuroscience of attraction. The reality of what oxytocin is doing inside relationships is considerably more interesting and considerably […]